Without purpose, Hard work is nothing but hard work. Don’t brag or be proud of the hours you spent. It’s not the act of hard work in itself that is admirable, it’s what you are working to achieve. Hard work only means something when it’s directed at what you believe in.

Every year people create New Years resolutions in an attempt to improve their lives, and every year they fail. At the end of the day, a New Years resolution is just words with little meaning unless they are tied into something that drastically affects your life. If you want to change your life, great, but do it when you notice the problem and have a clear-cut way to fix it. Chances are, noticing that problem is not on the 31st of December.

Knowing how to stop being indecisive is an important step to taking control of your life. We all face decisions and most of them don’t matter as much as we think. By creating a system that makes a default choice for us, you will not only stop wasting time and limit your stress, but it will give you a plan to adjust off of. When you haven’t moved down any path in life due to indecision, anything you do equates to forward progress.

Everyone screws up, whether that’s at work, at home, or by yourself. Regardless of how disastrous your screw up turns out to be, the only choice you have is to learn from it and make sure it doesn’t happen again. In this case, it’s a lesson in the importance of not being afraid to ask questions. You won’t look as dumb as you think and it can stop small problems from becoming huge issues.

The No Hesitation Lifestyle is about realizing that only you can say no. Stop hesitating to live the life you choose. It’s all in your mindset. The only thing that holds you back from living the life of your dreams, is yourself. Most people claim that you already have the ability to empower yourself and be successful, but that is only part of the story.

People want to help out those they like. And, no matter who you are or what experiences someone has, they can’t know everything. By being friendly and making personal connections with those you meet, you learn about opportunities that are not available to the rest of the world. And Jerks? Screw em’.

I wasn’t looking for them to find a life purpose, or find their calling in life. It was to get them away from their computers, away from their phones, and break the humdrum routine that gets them nowhere. I want them to get out there and just do something with their lives. Even, if that was learning some dumb card trick. That might even get them something, maybe even free drinks, which is more than watching “insert your favorite TV show”. The thing is, almost anything is considered forward momentum when you are comparing it to zero.

While it’s normal to avoid pain, it’s within your power fight the urge and embrace it. You have the power to choose what pain you feel. I’m not saying go stick your hand on a hot stove, but if you want to become better, smarter, or stronger you have to be willing to take the pain necessary to get there. Embrace the pain, force an adaptation, and embrace a new and better you.

In your journey to finding yourself and your independence, you can’t let anything hold you back. This includes the ability to confidently talk to others regardless of the environment you’re in. Lock in your public speaking skills, overcome your fear, and unlock doors you didn’t even know existed. My stomach was literally quivering. As I waited, I was trying to decide if I was shaking more or if the tent was. All around me the canvas of the tent was whipping back and forth as the sandstorm blew across the desert.